“..In most cases, all a child may need is their mother–they’ll need their mother to kiss or rub away the pain. But when the mommy kisses aren’t sufficient enough, that’s when we come in. “
Do you remember those mommy/daddy kisses? Your curious mind could lead you to endure what seems like the most unimaginable and horrible pain ever felt, at least until mommy or daddy planted that soothing and remedial kiss on your face. There was nothing that a band-aid, Neosporin, and a kiss from mommy and daddy that couldn’t make all that “pain” subside. I find myself doing this with my children. My grandmother used to always say, “Let their cry be music to your ears. You have to really listen to understand.”
Now that I fully understand what she meant, I can immediately determine what type of relief I’d have to provide based on the intensity of their cries. In most cases, I’d only have to kiss their little foreheads and tell them how mommy loves them and it’ll be okay. Then there are times where it takes swaddling-while-singing sessions along with all of my “I-love-yous”. Nevertheless, my kisses always provided therapy for their pain. But for the last two nights, there was nothing I could do for Imari. Recently, I’ve had to deal with a new type of pain–a pain that I could not force to subside.
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I took Imari to the emergency room around 12 AM. He cried the whole time we were there, which was about 2-1/2 hours. My son was in great pain and I felt so helpless. At times, he didn’t even want me to hold him and it really hurt my feelings. Then, he’d walk to me as if he wanted me to pick him up, but the wailing increased! It was hard to control him but even harder to console him.
A doctor finally came in after I literally walked out into the corridor pleading for assistance in regards to Imari. I’ve never been in a position where there was nothing I could do to make my children feel better. I felt worthless and useless. Luckily, a doctor was nice enough to come to my aid and look at my son. It was concluded that Imari had a MAJOR inner ear infection which apparently caused great pain to him. I had to use almost all the force that remained within my useless ass to hold my son down while the doctor gathered that information. Coincidentally, that only made matters worse for me because Imari didn’t even want me to hold him afterwards. He scratched, kicked, hit, and slapped me in no particular order. He had this look as if he didn’t understand why I held him like I did. In actuality, I never had to. That fact alone caused me to dwell within a state of lamentation. I tried to kiss him, but he rejected me. My infamous mommy kisses were counterproductive. I’ve never felt so inferior.
About 10 minutes later, the nurses came in to administer a shot and pain medication. Shortly after another wrestling match and increasing his level of spite that he may have had for me, he fell asleep. I felt relieved that my baby boy was finally able to rest. It had been two days since I was able to see him crack a smile in between his snoring. His little snores were soothing to my years.
Shortly after, the doctor returned and I could tell he could feel how relieved I was. By then, my tears had dried on my face but still served as evidence of such a toiling battle for peace. He told me he understood how I felt.
“..In most cases, all a child may need is their mother–they’ll need their mother to kiss or rub away the pain. But when the mommy kisses aren’t sufficient enough, that’s when we come in. “
I couldn’t thank Dr. Coe enough. To express my undying gratitude, I’m going to write someone in some place where it matters to acknowledge this man’s compassion and sympathy. Some doctors can’t see past your “health coverage” along with race and/or creed. Dr. Coe didn’t care–he saw a mother and child in need and he put the smile back on my son’s face and a everlasting smile in my heart.
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Ah, the famous ear infection; those are the worst. Those are the type of Doctors I feel don’t get enough credit. The ones who care more to help others than to help themselves. Only if there were more doctors like him.
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Ear infections are definitely not a joke. I have had some as an adult and they hurt and were very annoying, so I imagine the pain that a child has.
I agree with Dominique, we definitely need more caring doctors.
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Awwww. Im so glad that doctor could help you when you really needed it. The state I live in, NSW, in Australia has a terrible hospital system at the moment, there is never enough bed’s, waiting time is longer than usual, it’s become really bad and quite sad.. it’s the lack of staff and funding that the government put’s into the system. It’s really sad. So whenever I hear stories like your’s, it’s nice to hear, and I think it makes everyone smile. =)
I’m glad your son got treated to and hope he is doing a lot better now. Ear infection’s seem to be a common thing among young children.
Jaz – LOVE MUSIC
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