Learn from the Pain. Be inspired by the healing.

It’s been rough the last two months. Too many things have transpired and the last thing I want to do is go into detail about them. It seemed like every possible thing that could have gone wrong, went wrong and I was left to just.. deal. Dealing is extremely hard especially when you feel as if no one truly understands how you feel about all that’s going on.


Lately, I’ve had a lot of downtime to think about all the stressful things that have occurred in the last two months. While the rage, anger, and hurt grew and developed at rates that I couldn’t even fathom, tear after tear fell whenever I got the chance to allow them to. And it was a form of release therapy for me. A method to let it all go. A chance to embrace a healing.

Flowers grow out of dark moments. – Corita Kent

This isn’t the first time I’ve been disappointed, hurt, scared, or betrayed and I’m old enough to know that this sure won’t be the last. But with each hurt, each disappointment, each fear, and each betrayal, I’m taking it as a lesson. I’m taking it as a message. I’m receiving it as a blessing.

With each day, I’m learning from the pain. I’m learning to take an experience and make a better choice when faced with a new, but similar, situation.

With each day, I’m allowing myself to be inspired by the healing. It’s such a euphoric moment when you finally reach that point when you’re completely indifferent about something you thought would linger and hurt forever.

Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sky. -Rabindranath Tagore

And this healing.. My God, this healing is allowing me to get better at forgiving. More importantly, it’s allowing me to sincerely and truly LET. GO.

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  1. shacsimon

    August 5, 2012 at 5:33 pm

    Such an inspiration. Your post came at the most perfect time, as I’ve been going through a lot these last couple of days.

    1. Raely B.

      August 5, 2012 at 7:12 pm

      I hope you are able to endure. (:

  2. javacia

    August 5, 2012 at 6:05 pm

    Letting go is so hard. But when you do it the feeling really is euphoric just as you said. Stay strong, babe.

    1. Raely B.

      August 5, 2012 at 7:10 pm

      ..and I think letting go gets harder every time, but I’m hanging in there. I’m hanging in there.

  3. Makiea

    August 5, 2012 at 6:21 pm

    Sounds to me you are being stretched. That’s such a wonderful place to be because you’re growing. It’s definitely not an attempt to minimize what you’re going thru but the beauty of it all is that you will make it thru!

    1. Raely B.

      August 5, 2012 at 7:09 pm

      And that’s what I believe. I know that I’ll get through all of this, but I just wish I could hurry the process along. LOL.. just skip to the part where I’m over it all. But, it is a process.. and this type of process I’ve never known to quickly pass. Sigh.

  4. Zahara

    August 5, 2012 at 7:09 pm

    This past year was a very rough one for me as well. I was really angry about why all these things were happening to me and not any one else. And no one else really understood, or so I thought. I think it’s amazing that you’ve learned to take each obstacle as a learning lesson. It will make you stronger and wiser in the long run :)

    1. Raely B.

      August 6, 2012 at 10:59 pm

      I’m sorry that you had a tough year but I’m glad that you were able to persevere. Good luck on your voyage! (:

  5. demetria

    August 5, 2012 at 7:50 pm

    “It’s such a euphoric moment when you finally reach that point when you’re completely indifferent about something you thought would linger and hurt forever.”

    This is my favourite quote from your post. I get that completely. I’ve recently just removed myself from a lot of toxic energy and it just feels so good to surround yourself with positive and have some time to gain perspective on situations. You grow so much when you go through hell and come out on the other end. It feels amazing when you can just rise above situations.

    Great post.. xx

    Also, thanks for commenting on my blog :) I really appreciate it.

    1. Raely B.

      August 6, 2012 at 10:56 pm

      I’m realizing that removing those toxins from my life are more necessary and important than I thought.

      I feel my growth and that too, is an amazing feeling. (:

  6. Katrice

    August 5, 2012 at 11:22 pm

    I just wrote a post about feeling down all day and I come here and get totally inspired. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Just knowing that other people go through similar events and get through it makes me feel like the fight in me hasn’t died out yet.

    1. Raely B.

      August 5, 2012 at 11:57 pm

      I think that’s the beauty amongst a struggle. It’s universal. Either someone has been there or is there and it makes “dealing” that much easier. (:

  7. Marie Young

    August 6, 2012 at 7:00 am

    I don’t feel like your description on this post RIGHT NOW, but I have felt this way before and I am positive that I WILL feel like this again. Your post is very inspiring and helpful and it made me smile!

  8. Meli

    August 6, 2012 at 9:37 am

    wow…your blog, especially THIS post speaks to my soul. I so understand where your words are coming from. Something terrible – life changing terrible – happened to me almost one year ago on November 19th. I never thought I would get past it. But here I stand. STRONGER. I wish the same thing for you. Keep your head held high. And your spirit even higher….

    1. Raely B.

      August 6, 2012 at 10:54 pm

      Thank you so much. And it’s amazing how strong we become when we have no other choice to be. Or, maybe at that point we realize that we’re stronger than we initially thought..

      I’m glad you were able to endure. I’m sure I’ll be able to do the same. Thank you!

  9. Shannon

    August 6, 2012 at 6:30 pm

    Amen to that! I’m glad that you’re able to reflect on such things, express your emotions, pick them apart and learn from them. Not many people are willing or able to make sense of what they feel and be able to take them as blessings, or take lessons from them.

    1. Raely B.

      August 6, 2012 at 10:53 pm

      Definitely trying. I guess it comes with age. Growth. I know I’m different from the person I was last year.. last month.. yesterday, even. It’s a good feeling.

  10. Farrah

    August 6, 2012 at 7:20 pm

    Wow these are beautiful pictures! Very inspirational, and it reminds me to have a better relationship with God.

  11. Meekyleia

    August 6, 2012 at 8:51 pm

    The pictures are beautiful. I can truly relate to the first quote of this post, it’s hard to deal with things at time but I try not to dwell on them to heavily because it weighs on me hard if I do and I won’t be able to let go or heal from the pain. Stay positive, don’t let anyone discourage you and God will continue to lead you on your beautiful path.

    1. Raely B.

      August 6, 2012 at 10:51 pm

      I’m trying to not linger on things and as that saying goes, accept the things I cannot change. I’d like to think I’m getting better at it.

  12. Dee

    August 9, 2012 at 12:45 am

    This is such a beautiful post. You are right in everything you said, learning how to deal with the adversities we face is so important! It’s painful, uncomfortable, and sometimes just downright scary..but it so so necessary! The ease you feel after allowing yourself to heal is so beautiful. And you become so much stronger mentally and emotionally. Thank you for sharing your thoughts :)

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  13. Teems

    August 9, 2012 at 4:13 am

    Wow. I loved everything about this post. I know every feeling.

    “It’s such a euphoric moment when you finally reach that point when you’re completely indifferent about something you thought would linger and hurt forever.”

    That is my favorite quote as well. I have one thing in particular that I feel this way about and it is the sole reason that I can continue on in a relationship with some people.

  14. Amanda - Nicole

    August 10, 2012 at 8:59 pm

    This really made my day all the much brighter. I was saying the same thing to a friend today. It will take time and with time, more moments like these will come, but with faith I’ll endure the possible when its unthinkable. Inspiration.

    Love this.

    1. Raely B.

      August 10, 2012 at 9:23 pm

      I hope things have gotten better for you since reading this. Keep that faith that you have acquired and let it blossom as this is what I’m doing and it feels simply remarkable!

  15. C.D. Beatrice Clay

    August 10, 2012 at 9:03 pm

    Hi Rae. I’ve been where you are and what I can offer you is this – “this too shall past.” It may feel awful right now, but a month from now or a year from now, you won’t remember the hurt. God is Awesome and He heals! What has helped me pull myself out of the dumps and bad situations is writing a daily gratitude list. Some days I have a long list of things I am thankful for and some days I am in so much anguish that listing one thing seems like and impossible task. But regardless of how I am feeling, I still write my gratitude list daily (on my blog too:). It has changed my life and opened me up to healing and miracles! I encourage you to start a daily practice as well. I really like your blog and your photos; I’ll be visiting and sharing regularly :) O, I am so glad that you have joined in the 31 stories photoaday challenge this month too!

    1. Raely B.

      August 10, 2012 at 9:22 pm

      That is something that I am sure of–that God is truly awesome and that this is only temporary. Knowing that has made this process so much easier.

      I think that is a wonderful idea to start a gratitude list.. or perhaps a daily gratitude journal. I’m definitely going to start doing that because it is too often that I focus on the negative things and what I don’t have than being happy with all that I have been blessed with.

      I am so grateful for our connection.. more than you know!

  16. C.D. Beatrice Clay

    August 10, 2012 at 9:06 pm

    OK, I am bad because I am tripping right now. I just noticed your “let’s do brunch” blog button. I have no idea where I first saw this cute blog button, but I copied the image to my desktop at least a month or so ago. I often look it like wow what a neat cute button. I am certain that my use of circles in many of my blog board pics is because of this cute blog button. I am staring at it right now!!! So weird and AWESOME! It’s a small small world….it’s funny how folks are connected.

    Anyway, bye :)

  17. Kiara

    August 11, 2012 at 3:36 pm

    This is so inspiring, because I also have a hard time with just “dealing”. I don’t like lettings things be when I’m hurt or disappointed. I get very angry and that anger quickly turns into sadness. I always knew that I should get better with just letting things go, and that I should be thankful for the experience gained and what healing would offer to me: wisdom about different situations. But that’s just the hardest thing for me. I don’t realize that things aren’t always going to go my way and that life isn’t always fair. So, I’m inspired by you, that you’re able to do this. Hope everything gets better for you :)

  18. Chanel Jibal

    August 15, 2012 at 7:19 am

    Cheers to being inspired. Cheers to obtaining your ulitmate happiness. :) Loving your blog. Continue to grow into the person you long to be Rae :)

  19. Alicia @MommyDelicious

    August 20, 2012 at 12:12 pm

    “This healing allows me to let go.” I completely agree — if I didn’t take the time to reflect and heal on past hurt and pain, I would still be holding on to dead weight. Not good.

    Very insightful post. So proud of you.

  20. Courtni

    September 3, 2012 at 9:54 pm

    Although this was month ago, hope you’re doing well. Be blessed beautiful :)

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