How was everyone’s holiday? To say how totally unprepared I was would pretty much be an understatement. With all that has occurred, my Christmas spirit came and wen; it didn’t really stick. As a result, I got a late start on my shopping. I mean.. really late. Like, Christmas Eve Late.
We returned from Texas around 2:30-3:00 AM and when I made it home, I had just enough Christmas spirit juice left in me to wrap the gifts that I had gotten for my children. Considering the time that I had to shop, I thought I did a pretty swell job and racked up on some nice gifts. I could have saved so much more money on things had I shopped early though. This is another reason why I will never do ALL of my Christmas shopping on the Eve. But, that’s IF my little family and I will even have Christmas next year.
Why? Because of how my children reacted Christmas morning, mainly my daughter. My son, he’s pretty much easy to please and once he opened his table train set and it was assembled, he had no other worries in the world. He was content. Satisfied. Grateful.
On the other hand, my daughter asked, “So, is this all?” As if clothes, toys, shoes, make-up, etc. wasn’t enough. As if spending $400 on the gifts that I actually had gone to the store for wouldn’t suffice. Like the gifts in transit wasn’t enough. I usually give gifts on Christmas and New Year’s, but this year, I wanted to give some gifts up until NYE. But what my daughter received today, wasn’t enough. NOPE.
Were my feelings hurt? Slightly. And only slightly because I knew I had other gifts stashed away. But, I wanted to actually see if my children would be fine with what they received Christmas morning. My son passed the test. My daughter.. :rolls eyes: :harder:
I am partly the problem and now I realize what I have to do to make my kids a bit more appreciative.
Reduce random gifts given throughout the year. I honestly believe that this is the source of the problem.
Sometimes Most of the time Usually everytime I’m in the store, I leave with a toy, nail polish, books, etc. for my children. From now on, that $5 toy car and that cute little baby doll will be staying on the shelves in the stores.* After all, they have bins filled with dolls and cars. They’ll just have to make due with what they have. If it’s not a necessity, it doesn’t come home.
Reiterate the value of giving rather than receiving. Usually around this time, I’m in their room searching for toys that hardly get any play to give away to the local thrift stores or wherever I can drop them off. I think it’s time to teach them how to gather all the toys they no longer want to play with so they can drop the toys off themselves. In order to get a new toy, they need to select a few that they no longer want and give it away. I don’t see that going well, but I will be giving it a try.
Get them more involved with service work. I think my kids need to see what’s it’s like for families who aren’t as fortunate regardless of what their circumstance may be. I figured my son was a bit too young this year to really understand, but since he’s turning four in January, we’re definitely going to give it a go.
I’m not sure if this is going to work, but something needs to be done. My daughter apologized and it really seemed sincere, but I’ve made up my mind. My parents didn’t raise me to be unappreciative. It was just the opposite. I’m sort of torn in regards to how I should feel about my children having so many people in their lives that are willing to give them whatever their little hearts desire.. even though Mommy has already said no. After all, the last thing that I want to do is be ..
Overall, Christmas was OK around these parts. No. Christmas turned out to be quite wonderful, especially considering all circumstances. The food was amazing. Important lessons were learned. And love was shared.
And for that.. I am grateful.
*..mayyybe a toy here and there. no?