Yesterday I did something different–something that I hadn’t done in a while. I hung out with people my age.
My best friend, whom I also work with, has been asking me for weeks to go to happy hour but I always find some excuse not to tag along. Excuses like why my children needed me, even though they had their own little things going on. But, this time I said yes without the planning, the thinking, the devising, the planning for the planning. I just said yes. Something I haven’t done since before I had children.
You know what else I haven’t done since before I had children? Put an outfit for bar hopping together in less than 20 minutes. I had been wanting to wear this shirt I thrifted that perfectly complemented my zigi soho sandals for a while now and thought this was the perfect opportunity to do so.
I met up with a few of my coworkers for Happy Hour at a mature bar here in the city. Mature bars mean no fights, no bounce music, no ratchetness. Just influential and hardworking people that have come together to take the edge off and get ready for the weekend.
I needed to hear some mellow music. I needed to hear some music that I could relate to besides Austin Mahone, Bridget Medler (although I love her), and Selena Gomez. I needed to hear Sade, Marvin Gaye, Deneice Williams, Miguel, a little K. Michelle, and artists of the like.
I didn’t feel guilty this time. Well, I did a little bit but that didn’t stop me from going and I’m glad I did. I had a wonderful time mingling and laughing. Especially laughing.
After the bar, we headed to a comedy show that featured the comic Mutzie. This was my first time going to a comedy show. One of my coworkers extended the invitation (and the free tix) and guaranteed a good time. And I can’t begin to tell you how glad I was we weren’t seated in the front. We were at the safe table. The table with Mutzie’s son. Nevertheless, he definitely did not disappoint. Mutzie even made himself laugh. I’m sure the amazing daiquiri made the show that much more funny and the nachos made it easier to consume that daq so quickly, but I left the show with a chest & belly ache and my mouth in pain from all the laughter.
I needed this. I needed to be reminded that although I am a mom, I don’t have to reduce myself to “mom things.” I have fun with my children. I have fun going to family events and watching them run a muck and hearing them snoring afterwards. But I also love being around people and hearing them laugh and having them make me laugh.
It’s all about balance. I want to incorporate more of these hangouts in my schedule. It was the perfect release for the hectic work week and the perfect start to the weekend.