For the last few days, I’ve been deep within my thoughts.. in a good way. I’ve been thinking about the areas of my life that need some improvement that will ultimately add to its longevity and its quality. 2017 was a challenging year for me, as was 2016. It’s been a unequivocal split with being the worst and the best year of my life.
Every year has its challenges. And every year, I try to make through to the other side as graceful as I can. And in addition to the grace, I try my hardest to view those challenges as lessons instead of losses. And ultimately, transform and apply those lessons as goals for the years to come. Gentle Reminders.
Eliminate What Doesn’t Help You Evolve.
For the past few years, I’ve held on to things that I’ve should have let go a long time ago. One of those things being my habit of fostering one-sided relationships. I’m a low maintenance friend, but there’s a fine line in being low maintenance and being forgotten. Or only being thought of when you’re needed for something. I decided to end all of that when I wrote this post. And I’ve been at peace ever since. And this is the same methodology I’m practicing in the 2018 and the years to come.
Pack Light. Literally and Figuratively
I’ve had the pleasure of traveling to some amazing places this year: Cuba, Orlando, Tulum, Atlanta, Frankfurt, Germany, & Cape Town, South Africa. And each time I’ve traveled, I know I’ve packed entirely too much. Especially when I’ve underestimated the amount of time it would take to make to the airport and get through TSA. Do you know how hard it is to run to the airport with three bags with one of those bags using the expand option? Extremely Hard. And I’m handling that.
But that also brings me to all of the emotional baggage that I seem to be carrying around in my daily life. Baggage from years ago and baggage from yesterday. I’ve realized that hanging on to emotions and triggering situations does nothing for me in a positive sense. It does more harm than good. And while I don’t think I could every truly forget anything, because that’s not how my analytical mind works, I won’t let it alter my moods or my well-being.
Live a Healthier Life.
Speaking of my well-being, it needs some work. The physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional aspects. Every last piece. But there’s one area that’s weaker than the others and needs much more attention — my physical. Ever since the flood, my emotions were hard to manage and I became an emotional eater. And once the habit formed, it was hard to break, especially when the blows came to me this year. I ate when happy, sad, mad, at peace, etc. And because of that, I’ve gained a substantial amount of weight. My sleeping habits have changed. My digestive system does not generally cooperate with me. And those are just a few of my problems.
I’ve sulked over my weight gain for quite some time and I’m over it. I don’t plan to go full on Vegan, because I can’t. I absolutely cannuh. But I do plan on making extreme changes in my diet and exercise routine. And as for my accountability, that’s ya’ll.. because I plan to document my changes in some manner right here in this space with the hopes to inspire and motivate someone.
Cling to Gratitude
I talk to Harper a lot. She’s easily one of my favorite people. And in a very trying moment, I reached out to her and asked what were some of the things that she does to stay positive, and to always remember to be thankful. She shared her method and it’s really something that I would like to practice. Sometimes I get so stressed out about certain situations that I’m blinded. And in the middle of being so emotional about whatever, I forget about being so blessed.
I’m not sure how I’m going to tailor the practice that best suits me — whether I’m going to do a jar, a journal, or whatever. But I do know that it would help keep my centered.
Invest in Yourself
I deserve the same energy I put out. Point blank. And I haven’t been giving myself that. I’ve made others my main priority ignoring my own needs. The generous amounts of effort that I put into others often rids me of any energy to indulge in my own hobbies and interests. And as a result, this leaves me feeling subpar, especially in regards to certain areas of my life. And that needs to change.
I’m making an effort to read & learn more so that I can apply that to my life that will help me grow; I need to let go of this fear of making people realize my worth without a gentle reminder because sometimes you need to get straight to the damn point; but most importantly, I need to work on finishing what I start. (I have A LOT of unfinished projects that need my attention.)
Protect Your Peace. By Any and All Means
The only way that I know that I would be able to cultivate a deeper relationship with myself is to make sure I have inner peace and the mental means to protect it. This is one of my most important goals for the coming years. I expressed a little bit of what that meant to me in this post, and I’ve done a pretty good job. But in the coming years, I want to be better. An expert. And I will, because my peace is important to me. It’s valuable. Invaluable. And I plan to protect by any and all means necessary.
The New Year is closing in and from the bottom of my heart, I want to wish you all a Happy and Prosperous New Year. May you have the bravery and willpower to achieve everything and more in 2018 and the years to come. Peace, Love, and Blessings to you all!
With all my Love,